Get four SJs together, each of a different type, and factor all the differences in. The goal of the group is to plan an event that will be enjoyed by all 4. What do you have? A situation that requires understanding each other and how to accommodate the differences of each.
The first requirement for success in this situation is understanding. And it is true of every group or organization, but on an even larger scale because organizations are made up of all the variations of each of the four temperaments -- 16 types.
If you have a family of four, you potentially have all four temperaments represented. At any rate, it is highly unlikely that all four are identical temperaments. So when you are planning for your family, who do you leave out or forget to accommodate. You don’t want to leave anyone out, but if you do not understand each other, someone is most probably going to get hurt and “feel” left out whether it was intended or not. For some temperaments this can do serious damage to the individual and to the relationships.
If you lead a group or an organization, you will lead best when you understand those you lead and when you provide for the differences: communicating with and treating people according to how they are made. When you do understand, those you lead will know it and recognize you as a respected leader.
For you, the understanding will provide the “aha moments” of insight that bring you confidence as a parent or leader of a group. Those moments will provide you with joy for your "Joybox"!
